Your Situation Does NOT Define you

You graduated college and there are boundless opportunities. You hold high hopes and dreams for that big adult job you’re supposed to magically get after college. But, after months of looking, swiping, applying, interviewing, rejection stings. In the end, you’re a college graduate, working a job out of your field, getting paid $14 an hour.


Busy Mom (I do not own this photo)

Or maybe you’re a mom with adorable little stinkers, a husband, a house with a white picket fence, a stable job, yet, you’re unhappy? Juggling work, tending to your kids, and pleasing your husband and other family members has left you a jumbled mess with no room to pursue your passions. Everyone thinks you’re happy, but inside, your light is slowly dimming.


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Incompleteness, emptiness, and constant highs and lows fill your months. You blame it on your period. You begin to blame your life situation (where you were born, the money you have, the type of parents you have) for your unhappiness. Then you begin to blame the people around you for your unhappiness. You feel lost, alone, and unsure of how to reach your highest potential in your current situation. I am here to tell YOU. Your situation does not define you. Your failures, your obligations, and your assumed limitations does not define you.

Dropping out of school does not define you. Your college degree does not define you. What others say DOES Not define you. I’ll push it even further to say, your race or ethnicity Does Not define you.

You may be thinking, Alright Wabi Sabi, if none of these things define me, what does?


The Light Within (Photo Edited by Wabi Sabi, Original photo by David Lee, Dress designed by Patjira Thao)

Your spirit and light that shines from within IS the real you. That little voice that encourages you to push a little more, to give your all, or to get off your butt to hit the gym. It’s that passive voice we often ignore. When you begin listening to your true voice more and more, its presence and voice speaks louder and stronger, and you will feel a shift in your thinking, perspective, and habits.

We all are placed on this earth for a reason. And when you associate who you are with for example who your family is, your failures, or your culture and allow these labels to fully define you, you might be missing on the biggest piece of you.

You are crazy Wabi Sabi, you might be saying in your head.

I promise you, slowly blur those labels that has defined you for so long and you will see more and more of your true self. You are not what you’re born into or where you’re born into. We are put in situations, sometimes far from our actual purpose to see how far we are willing to go to find it. Some people stay stuck in their comfortability and some take action to seek out their true purpose.

It’s like a hot and cold game. You will feel coldness when you’re walking the wrong direction from your purpose, but if you’re on the right path, warmness will fill you. As you get closer, the warmness becomes a fire: the flame that’s been waiting to be ignited by YOU.

When you’re on the path to purpose, that path will feel warmer and warmer, you will begin to wake up every day excited to start your journey to your highest fulfillment. Sadness, loneliness, and emptiness will slip away with the cold.

No fear and “Just Do it.” Your situation does not define you, or hold you back. The only thing that holds you back from greatness is yourself. You have the power to transform your life. Be hungry and aim for the highest vision for your life.


Wabi Sabi

Photo Credits to
Mally Yang

Wabi Sabi is a passionate writer and performative artist, who wants to utilize her talent to educate, awaken, and inspire you to find your truest, best, positive version of yourself.

She is driven to create works that will inspire us as human beings in this beautiful home we call earth, to be happier, healthier and aunthentic individuals.

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